A love inventory is the hardest work I have ever done and it took me two years to do it. First it took me a year to figure out who I had actually been in love with and find contact information for these men. Internet was not invented yet, so I had to go back to old friends from childhood to find them. Then it took me another year to dare to contact these men and visit them. Since I had been secretely in love with most of them, it was so embarrassing to call them. I was also very nervous when I met them for an interview. I would never be able to do this kind of work today and I have great respect for the young me, who actually followed my will to see my ex-loves again, so many years later.